When he looks at her he sees her thighs, not her being. When she responds to him she seeks his materials, not his heart. They are locked in a very fleshly conundrum of lust and emotional mayhem. No room for conscious reality, no space to openly express trueness -- only fleeting desires.
The awareness of a real possibility of connecting with each other is so overwhelming that the hurt they've experienced governs their surface mannerisms. Pain is a daunting enemy. Initially it clings to our memories so tightly that it dilutes future truth, authentic emotions, the richness of connecting and eventually leaves us wondering if we should call first.
Who cares ... Call! If you have sought the Almighty's direction in your choice to connect then if you don't trust yourself, at least trust God. I'm told He will never leave you hanging. Imagine jumping into a pool of cool, crisp water naked. Not a care in the world. You fully expect the water to break your fall with a subtle support that does not hinder you, but allows you to glide thru life to reach your intended goal.
When faced with desires that surpass our known capability, we simply have to recognize our weakness, seek strength to resist and expect the Lord to deliver us in His due time.
